Reverse Cowgirl Sex Position: What It Is & How to Ride in Sexy Style

The reverse cowgirl sex position is one of the hottest ways to have sex AND show yourself off! What is it, and how to do it right? Find out here!

You can’t skip the super-hot reverse cowgirl sex position in bed. It’s a great way to look like you know what you’re doing, and make your man love the way you look too!

Wanna know why it’s been dubbed as one of the best sex positions, and why you should add it to your sex arsenal? We’ll tell you everything you need to know, and more!

When it comes to getting freaky in the bedroom, this is the position you don’t want to leave out.

We think we can speak for every woman out there when we say that reverse cowgirl is among the best of all the positions. And we also believe we can speak for every man out there when we say that they LOVE it.

Because this position pleases both men and women so much, it’s unmistakably the best for so many reasons, and we’ll list them as we get to the later half of this feature.

[Read: The best positions to impress your man and rock his world in bed]

But how does the reverse cowgirl position work?

What is the reverse cowgirl sex position?

For those of you who, unfortunately, have never been able to experience or even know about this great position, we’ll break down exactly what it is.

We’re sure most, if not all, of you know what the cowgirl position is. It’s when a woman is on top of the man, straddling and riding her partner when he penetrates her, and they’re facing each other. 

Reverse cowgirl is basically what it sounds like. All you do is take the woman who is on top and turn her around so she’s facing away from her man, while still straddling him. The only thing that would make this position more accurate for its name is if she threw on a cowgirl hat.

On that note, these days many people call this position the Reverse Rider to keep it more gender-neutral. So if you’d prefer to call it that instead, you do you!

The cowgirl vs reverse cowgirl positions

Both of these positions are pretty much the same, and yet, the opposite of each other.

When you’re in the regular cowgirl position, you sit on the man while he lies down under you. You’re looking at him, and you face towards his face. [Read: 19 ways to own the cowgirl position and make it way hotter]

The reverse cowgirl sex position is the exact same – you sit on the guy while he lies down under you on a bed. But instead of facing him, you face his toes. So he doesn’t get to see your face, but he gets to see your sexy bum instead!

Have you tried it, and not enjoyed it?

Have you heard nothing but rants and raves about how amazing reverse cowgirl feels from your girlfriends, sex therapists, or sex educators, only to be disappointed by the lackluster reality? Or are you confused and not sure how to position yourself?

You’re definitely not alone. With females going gaga over this naughty position, you’re bound to feel left out once you do the deed without getting off.

The bottom line? If it doesn’t feel good, you’re not doing it right! We’re here with many tips and tricks on how to do it right, and we’ll get to all of them below.

[Read: How to ride a man without getting tired – A full lesson on sexual endurance]

The reverse cowgirl and how to get into position

If you’re wondering how to give it a try or start enjoying this sexual position, we’re here to get you started.

Reverse cowgirl is exactly what its name suggests: simply “girl on top” missionary, with you spun around. Have your man lay down on his back and insert his penis into your vagina with your back facing his face while you face his toes.

From here, you may choose to bounce up and down *tiring, and rarely pleasurable for the girl* or lean forward *as if in doggy style* and thrust against his penis.

Other variations include leaning back and grinding, or having your man sit up as you mount him. This can be totally hot, or amazingly romantic—your call!

[Read: How to ride a man and look really sexy doing it – Tips and tricks]

The pros and cons that make it fun and not-so-fun

Have you or your partner expressed a wary attitude when it comes to getting down and dirty in reverse? Your reservations may be warranted.

Before getting into our tips and tricks, we’re looking at the pros and cons that may have you excited, yet hesitant about the prospect of reverse cowgirl sex.

The pros of reverse cowgirl

What’s so great about this position that so many girls love?

1. Great control for the ladies

Women love to be on top because they get to control the speed, depth, and angle of vaginal penetration. This is a big deal when it comes to reaching that big O! [Read: The 12 amazing types of female orgasms you can experience every time you’re in bed]

2. A great view

If your man is a butt guy, he’s going to absolutely love the view he gets when you’re reverse riding him. [Read: 34 sexual and physical turn ons that arouse guys instantly]

3. Free to fondle

Whether it’s you or your man, this position leaves both of your hands free to do a little bit of fondling. He can reach forward and rub your clit, you can reach down and play with his balls, or either of you can even use a sex toy to make things wilder. Definitely a fun position for those roaming hands.

[Read: What are blue balls? A full guide to blue balls and personal experiences of men]

The cons of reverse cowgirl

What makes this position not so fun, and tiring? Well, this is what!

1. Penis breakage

Some men fear this position, since it is one of the easiest positions to have… erm… “accidents” during some aggressive sex.

If your man slips out of your vagina and you plant down hard, but miss his penis, your bum can break the penis and render it “out of commission” for several months. Definitely not a sexy experience! [Read: 18 fascinating and unknown facts about a penis all women must know] 

2. Squats suck, especially when you’re trying to orgasm

Any kind of girl-on-top position is a huge workout, and this one is no exception! Squatting over and over to get the rhythm just right can prove exhausting. [Read: 15 really embarrassing and painful things that can happen during sex]

3. Penis angle

Depending on how your man’s penis is shaped and angled, having his member hit up against the reverse walls of your vagina can actually prove painful. [Read: 13 types of penis and the ones that feel good or meh inside you]

4. Pooping sensations

Angles aren’t just a problem just for your man!

Since your lover’s penis isn’t facing your g-spot, the angle of his penis may actually make you feel more like you have to do a number 2 than have an orgasm. Gross, but hey—it’s true!

Reverse cowgirl tips and stimulation tricks for better penetration and sex

If you’ve tried reverse riding, and don’t seem to enjoy it all that much, chances are, you’re doing something wrong. Or maybe you’re tiring yourself out by trying too hard to work that thrust.

Give these tips and tricks a try, and you may just enjoy it a lot more the next time you reverse ride a man!

1. Make sure you’re wet

This is an important lesson to know, no matter which position you choose. If you’re ever getting on top of a man, make sure you’re really wet already. This is a mistake many girls make. They get on top of a man and thrust his penis in before they’re actually wet all the way in.

What happens next would feel like you’re rubbing sandpaper on the insides of your vagina! It feels uncomfortable and painful, and with each up and down thrust, it only feels worse.

And then, you may just give up and ask your man to get on top of you and go back to the missionary position. Instead, just make sure you’re really wet, and you can actually enjoy the control instead. [Read: How to get wet and really aroused whenever you feel like it]

2. Learn the position

Reverse riding may seem fun and exciting, but may get a little confusing when things aren’t fitting together the way you’re used to them fitting. Combat this uncomfortable start by becoming familiar with the position beforehand.

Since X-rated movies are incredibly staged, especially when it comes to positions, porn isn’t going to be your best friend for figuring this one out. Instead, try sitting on a pillow and moving your pelvis around.

Give it a try and see which motion feels best when you’re humping a pillow. Do you like squatting and bouncing on the pillow? *tiring* Do you like grinding? Moving forwards and backwards? Do you prefer moving your hips around in circles? Or do you prefer leaning forward and resting on your hands?

Once you’re familiar with the things you can do to feel more comfortable, you’ll be able to enjoy the experience, and feel way more confident riding a guy in reverse. [Read: How to hump a pillow and all the positions you can use to orgasm by yourself]

3. Relax and have fun

The #1 thing that will ruin any great sex session is overthinking or feeling tense. In order to let loose and feel good about your new position, you’re going to want to relax. Make sure you’ve already had a fun round of foreplay before hopping on top. 

4. Avoid exhaustion!

To avoid being overworked and tuckered out mid-session, be sure that reverse cowgirl is mixed with another favorite position both of you like.

For example, have your man enter you doggy style, and then when you both feel close to orgasming, switch into reverse riding for the big finale.

You could also take turns in this position, grinding against him, and then having him take the brunt and thrust into you.

Don’t mix too many positions though, or it’ll just start to feel confusing. But when you mix a couple of positions that are similar and familiar, everything would just feel so much more sexier and naughtier too! [Read: How to have doggy style sex and enjoy every second of it]

5. Ride shallow

As previously stated, one reason men get iffy about reverse cowgirl is because so many penises have been harmed by this scandalous position in the past!

If your man fears the breakage of his favorite body part, try doing slow or shallow thrusting. This feels great for both of you, makes for a longer session, and ensures him an intact penis by the end of your orgasm!

6. Use an angle that works best for you

Every penis is different. Some curve downwards, others upwards, and then a few curve left or right. When you’re on top of a man, the penis usually goes deeper and faster than if a man lies on top of you. 

So, sometimes, you may end up experiencing pain depending on which direction the penis penetrates you. So start slow, and move your hips along in a direction that makes you feel pleasure instead of pain. [Read: What makes the perfect cock according to women and their sexual experiences?]

7. Don’t rely on your partner to carry your weight

You may have heard some people say your partner sitting under you can hold you by your hips and bob you up and down, which can give you a bit of a break when you’re tired, and make it easier. But no, don’t even bother giving this a try, it doesn’t help.

Firstly, your partner’s arms will hurt like crazy, which may end up making him go limp down there.

Secondly, and more importantly, you’re moving in a certain pattern. And your partner would have a very hard time syncing with your hip’s motion. So when you’re going down, they may try lifting you up accidentally, or the other way around! What’s supposed to be sexy could end up annoying you, or leaving one of you frustrated.

8. Do whatever feels right

There is no strict formula when it comes to doing the reverse cowgirl sex position “right,” nor does sex have to look a certain way to feel amazing. Basically, do whatever feels good!

If you love to bounce on your man’s penis, have at it! If you like grinding or wiggling motions better, or prefer to hold yourself up while your man pounds into you, that’s what you should do.

If you’ve tried this position in the past and felt more “bored” than “on board,” we urge you to give it another chance. With any luck, it may be your new favorite go-to position. [Read: 16 sex secrets for women to make sex so much more exciting]

The best motions that work for reverse riding

We’ve discussed a few of these positions already, but just in case you want an easy reminder, here are a few moves you can use to get max pleasure while reverse riding someone!

1. Thrusts

This is the basic move, where you reverse ride your partner and move up and down, using your thigh muscles.

2. Shallow thrusts

If your man has a bigger member, you’d want to use this. It’s also reassuring to a guy when a girl uses shallow thrusts that don’t make the penis slip out in between thrusts.

3. Deeper thrusts

If your man is smaller down there, this is a position that works wonders. A shorter penis can hit deeper and touch your pleasure spots more easily if he’s lying down and you’re sitting on top of him. [Read: How to have great sex with a smaller penis and why smaller can sometimes be better]

4. Grind in circles 

Sit comfortably over your partner with their penis inside of you. Raise your butt just half an inch up in the air by sitting on your knees, and move your hips around in circles.

5. Move forward and backward

This is a lazy move that gives you a lot of body touch as well. Sit on top of your man, and instead of lifting yourself up, just slide your bum forwards and backwards when he’s inside you. You can even use a bit of lube under your bum and slide like a sexy dancer over your man’s pelvis.

6. Hold their feet for support

Bend over all the way in front, and hold your partner’s toes. When you do this, you don’t need to use your thigh muscles anymore. You can instead use your hands and your knees for all the support.

Your partner can prop himself up against a pillow, a wall, or your bed’s headboard, and smack or squeeze your bum for some more fun. [Read: How to eat ass – The rimming guide to eat booty like a boss]

7. Use pillows under your knees and bounce

Want a bit of fun break in between all the humping and jumping? Place a pillow each under each of your knees, and just bounce along with it. Sexy can be fun as well!

8. Get your partner to sit on a chair

Want to seduce your man and ride him in sexy style? Get your man to sit on a chair, and sit over him. You can either thrust, grind or slide, and he’ll love all of it.

Give any of these moves a try when you’re using the reverse cowgirl sex position, and you’ll feel really sexy doing it. And your partner will love every second of the sexy time too!

[Read: 15 sexy moves to master the girl on top position and leave your man sexually surprised!]

What makes the reverse cowgirl sex position a must-know trick for all women?

Everybody has their own personal tastes on what they like best and what feels best for them. However, reverse cowgirl is absolutely among the top sex positions that the majority of people seem to enjoy.

Want to make reverse riding your go-to position while having sex? Here is why this position has been dubbed one of the best and why so many people perform it on a regular basis.

1. It feels AH-mazing

What more could a woman or a man want in bed than a position that makes both of them feel incredible? Reverse cowgirl has the power to create incredible *physical and visual* stimulation for men, but it also gives women a great angle to the G-spot, making it feel truly great! [Read: How to tingle the g-spot to perfection without using a flashlight]

2. Women feel more confident

When you’re having sex in this position, you will feel worlds more confident. Since you’re the person on top, literally, you’ll feel on top emotionally, as well.

If you’re someone who doesn’t exactly feel comfortable about her body or her belly *even though you should be proud of it* this position allows you to face away from your partner, only giving him the amazingness that is your behind. [Read: How to feel more confident in your body and start loving YOU]

3. Women get to take the reins!

What makes a gal feel sexier than being the one in charge? In reverse cowgirl, women get to take the reins and control the situation.

They can decide just how fast, slow, deep, and at what angle the sex will happen. It also gives them a sense of empowerment that they don’t get in other positions, making them feel sexier—which will make for even better sex!

4. Women have great frontal access to themselves

The majority of women need some form of clitoral stimulation in order to reach orgasm.

In reverse cowgirl, not only do they have total control over penetration and the depth of penetration as well, they also have control over touching themselves, in order to get where they need to be! [Read: 10 pleasurable ways to stimulate your clitoris when you’re on top]

5. It’s a fantastic workout for women!

Sexual pleasure aside, this position is an outstanding workout! If you ladies have ever been on top in any capacity, you know that it gets your thighs and butt burning!

The motion of continuously going up and down works some muscles that you might not normally work. The bonus? While your man gets an awesome view of your behind, it’ll look better and better each time you get into this position!

6. It gives men a view they’ll never forget

All they get to see straight on is the view of your booty moving up and down. Honestly, what more could a guy ask for?

Not only do they get the joy of that, but women get the joy of knowing their men are enjoying it to an extreme.

7. Men get to sit back, relax, and let their women work

Let’s face it: men do most of the work, the majority of the time while having sex. It’s easy to be lazy with sex, because there are so many positions that cater to women laying there and letting their men work.

With reverse cowgirl, men just get to sit back while their women please them both. They get to really relax and not worry about pumping their hips for once! [Read: Pillow princess – What does it mean to be labeled as one?]

8. It’s great for flings and one-night stands

It’s not super emotional so for those of you looking for a one-time fling and wanting to avoid the hassle of making a deeper connection, this position is calling your name! With women facing away from men, it’s not too intimate a position.

It also doesn’t have too much touching—other than genitals. There’s not much body-to-body contact or even eye contact which can make you feel pretty emotional and close.

In this position, you can easily hit it and quit it—if that’s what you’re into, that is. [Read: 18 girl-on-top tips to look really sexy when you’re riding your man]

9. It gives women a lot of options

Since it puts women in control most of the time, they can really navigate their bodies in order to get the best pleasure out of the experience.

Women can lean forward, back, and even gyrate their hips if they really want to—leading them to mind-shattering orgasms.

10. Access to some ball play

This position not only gives women the option to play with themselves, but also to play with their partner’s manhood. If a woman’s partner is into it, she has full access to give his balls some added stimulation that is otherwise hard to reach. [Read: 8 naughty little moves every guy wishes you’d do in bed]

11. It’s a great transitioning position

Not only does this position have all the perks mentioned above, it’s also a great position to transition into another one.

It makes it really easy for your man to sit up and get you into doggy style, without having to maneuver around too much!

12. It changes the “normal” routine

The ultimate benefit of this position has to be that it gets you away from your normal sex routine. It gives you different options and views that you don’t normally get in more “typical” positions, and this has the power to spice things up – a lot!

13. Everybody gets the best of what they want!

All in all, this position will give each person exactly what they want. Women get the control they’ve been wanting and men get to enjoy the view while doing minimal work! It’s a win-win for everyone!

14. You feel like you’re an expert

The reverse cowgirl sex position gives you total control. You control the pace, the depth, and the pleasure for both of you.

When you try this position often, you’d feel more comfortable and confident with your own sexual prowess and needs. No more are you the demure girl who lies down like a starfish while a man gets on top, you’re in total control, and you know every single twist and grind that turns you on.

[Read: What men like in bed – 32 things they absolutely want and lust after while having sex]

Game changer bonus to make reverse cowgirl way better!

To get even more out of reverse riding, take it up a notch and try a variation!

When you are in reverse cowgirl, lean back, and prop yourself up, with each arm beside your partner. This will increase your pleasure greatly, while allowing your man to take control of your hips and get to work.

An even better way to spice up this already smokin’ hot position is to do it in front of a mirror. Not only do you get to feel all the effects of it, you get to watch yourself in action! [Read: The smutty ways to take your sex life from vanilla to OMFG in one night]

[Read: Top 50 kinky sex ideas worth trying at least once in your lifetime]

The reverse cowgirl sex position is not a position you should miss. Next time you hit the sheets, pin your man down in bed and sit on him. And give this sexy position a try! He’ll definitely enjoy it more than you think, and you surely will too!