Sexy Words: 23 Seductive Words, Dos & Don’ts to Make Dirty Talk Sound Erotic

Dirty talk can be made much easier by knowing which sexy words to throw in to make everything hotter! Learn how to make your partner weak at the knees.

Have you ever heard a certain word and suddenly began to feel all warm and tingly down south, but you weren’t sure why? People often cite the brain as the most powerful sexual organ. So it’s no surprise that sexy words in the naughty alphabet can turn you or your partner on, even a word as simple as “lick.”

If you’ve ever had a lover use dirty talk during sex, you know exactly how powerful of a stimulant it can be. Not only does using sexy words build up sexual tension between you and your partner, it always keeps them thinking about you all day long.

Believe it or not, sexy words and dirty talk are actually very different things. Instead of talking about what hot and filthy phrases to say to your partner, we’re showing you specific keywords to say to turn your partner on, as well as words you should NEVER say! [Read: How to dirty talk and turn your lover on like no one else can]

First, the not-so-sexy words you should never say – ever

Before you are educated on the sexy words and phrases you can use to turn your partner on, you must understand that with great power comes great responsibility.

For example… telling your wife that you want to make her panties moist may seem like a sexy gesture, but the truth is, women commonly hate both of those words. [Read: 23 sexy tips to dirty talk and saying the sexiest words]

Here are some of the top hated words according to females.

1. Moist

Cosmo cited psychologist Dr. Paul Thibodeau’s study of 2,500 students’ honest opinions of the word “moist.” The result? A whopping 18% of the students disliked the word moist due to its association with bodily functions.

Interestingly, well-educated females were most likely to dislike the term. So the next time you’re looking for another word for “wet” in your sexy word arsenal, keep on moving.

2. Slit/cooter/beaver/c*nt

Vaginas aren’t cutesy, they aren’t Canadian wildlife, and they don’t deserve a super aggressive nickname. For the most part, these synonyms for vagina are the ones women could do without. Also, add to the list “hole” and “twat.”

3. Squirt

Surveys worldwide also show that women hate the term “squirt”, largely due to its pornographic connotation. In fact, one study found that 68% of the female participants said that the term squirt made them squirm.

4. Panties

In the same study cited above, 54% of female participants hated the term “panties.” Why? There are many theories, two being that it sounds like it’s trying too hard to be sexual and that it sounds too infantilizing. [Read: How dirty panty fetishes are paying women’s utility bills]

Now, the best sexy words to turn your partner on

Now that you know what not to say, it’s time to learn how to stimulate love and lust in your lover’s brain to make things feel steamy. Here are the top sexy words that are sure to turn your lover on.

1. Their name

Guys love it when a girl says their name during sex. It lets him know you’re thinking about him and not fantasizing about your ex. Men like to know that it’s their hunka-hunka-burnin’-love that can satisfy you… and no one else’s. [Read: How to turn on a guy – 15 moves to arouse him while making out]

2. Tight

Every girl wants to feel like she’s the tightest her guy has ever been with. It denotes a virginal, desirable quality that speaks to us on a primal level.

While you certainly don’t have to have a nearly impenetrable vagina for a guy to think you’re hot stuff, there’s something about your guy telling you how tight you are down there that’s a total turn-on. [Read: How to talk dirty to a girl without turning her off]

3. Love, but not the cutesy type

Whether you’re hearing your partner say they love you in an intimate moment, or they’re simply revealing that they love your breasts, the way you moan, or that signature move you do – it all becomes hot.

This is because when said in a sexual situation, love denotes the ultimate passion. You don’t get more intense than saying you love something!

4. Wet

Where you can see his erect penis, telling your guy how wet he’s making you is like sharing a naughty little secret. This is something that can’t be seen that establishes how turned on you are. [Read: How to get wet and really aroused whenever you feel like it]

5. Deep

Who doesn’t love the term “deep” when it comes to dirty talk? Deep is a non-offensive term that can be used in plenty of dirty phrases. For example:

“I want you deep inside me.”

“Take it deep in your throat.”

This term makes your man feel like he has a huge dick that’s pleasing every inch you have to give, and it also makes a girl feel like she’s being completely filled with pleasure. What more can we say… it’s just hot.

6. Cock

This is one of those words that women surprisingly seem to enjoy more than men… and actually prefer it over dick, penis, and prick. Regardless, this one is usually a crowd pleaser.

Ignoring the chicken-like attribution, cock borders on a taboo synonym that seems bad, naughty, and powerful. [Read: 50 sexy and dirty things to say to your boyfriend]

7. Need

Men and women universally want to feel wanted, especially in the sack. We want to know that we’re the only one who could ever possibly pleasure you this much or make you come this hard.

“Need” is a word that creates a powerful word picture. Phrases like “I need your body,” “I need you inside me,” or “I need to put my hands on you” convey powerful, lusty desperation that’s almost too hot to handle without using any explicit words!

8. Cum/come

An orgasm, or “cuming/coming,” denotes the height of passion when you’re between the sheets, so there’s no surprise that this is an equally beloved term for both sexes.

While you don’t know what the other person’s orgasm feels like, when they utter the phrase “I’m going to come” you know they’re about to head into pleasurable bliss. At the same time, hearing the phrase “I want to make you cum/come” is tantalizing because it implies someone wants to make you feel good.

This sexy word is one of the single most exciting terms on the list because it conveys something arousing and mysterious all in one go. [Read: How to sound sexy in bed to drive your partner wild]

9. Pussy

Surprisingly, many women polled enjoyed the word “pussy” when it comes to naming their nether regions.

Most found that “vagina” was too clinical to sound hot in the heat of the moment. And “c*nt” sounded too abrasive when said aloud. But “pussy”, with its kitty-cat connotations, was a safe and sexy word that women loved.

10. Bad

When you held up the car keys to your dad’s refinished Mustang as a teen and confessed “I did something bad!”, it was probably one of the most terrifying moments of your life. Alternatively, when your wife leans in close and whispers “I’ve been a bad girl,” it’s probably one of the most exciting.

The word “bad” is all about context. Maybe it’s taboo or maybe it’s the adrenaline that kicks in, but for many people, the feeling of doing something bad makes them feel extra naughty. [Read: Sexy things to say in bed – 30 lines to drive them wild]

Fun fact: this word is also popular with BDSM searches.

11. Hard

Even the most basic words, when referring to sexual excitement, can get us into a horny spell. Take the word “hard” for example. “It’s hard,” “I can feel you getting hard,” and “put that hard dick inside me” are all hot phrases.

As long as the context is sexual, this quickly becomes one of those sexy words people can’t get enough of. [Read: How to make a guy hard – 16 moves he won’t be able to resist]

The do’s & don’ts of dirty talk

It’s not just about knowing which sexy words to use when you’re talking dirty to your partner, it’s about knowing how to do it too. You can do dirty talk well, or you can do it very badly indeed. Perhaps that’s why so many people are a little apprehensive about trying it for the first time!

To help you out, so you can get started using the words we’ve talked about, let’s check out a few do’s and don’ts of dirty talking. [Read: 20 beginner dirty talk examples to get them in the mood for fun]

1. Do take a deep breath. Confidence is key!

2. Don’t mutter under your breath, make sure you’re clear!

3. Do use words that you’re comfortable with.

4. Don’t use words that you know your partner hates or finds offensive. [Read: Dirty talking in bed with your partner]

5. Do try role-play if you find dirty talking as yourself a little cringe-worthy.

6. Don’t forget to ask questions. If you’re struggling, get them to do their bit and answer a sexy question!

7. Do enjoy it! This is supposed to be something fun for both of you.

8. Do describe things you want to do or would like to be done, it’s the easiest form of dirty talk!

With these tips and the sexy words we’ve talked about, you’ll be a dirty talk pro in no time!

[Read: The 26 naughtiest things in a foreign language]

The human mind is a strange thing. We don’t know exactly why these sexy words trigger such a sexual response, but they do. So the next time you’re down for a dirty talking romp, we suggest you open up your dictionary and look for sexy words to get you inspired.