20 Signs a Coworker Is Sexually Attracted to You & Wants to Seduce You

You have a crush on someone you work with, but what are the signs a coworker is sexually attracted to you? Here’s what you need to know about it.

Work crushes are great. They help you get through the daily grind just knowing they exist. They give you a reason to get dressed in the morning, possibly even wash your hair. Learning the signs a coworker is sexually attracted to you may not be in your HR manual, but you should learn them.

How to read the signs a coworker is sexually attracted to you

It’s fun to work with a colleague you like, especially if you’re a huge flirt. Plus, it keeps you entertained. But, aside from that, having a crush on your coworker is a lot of fun. The drama of the small interactions makes work easier to pass.

That being said, eventually, something needs to happen. You can’t simply have a crush on someone for years and not have some conclusion to the story.

So, if you’re into taking it to the next step, you first see whether they’re attracted to you. Of course, you could just ask them out and see their response, but what’s the fun in that?

[Read: Does your crush like you back? 15 things you should do next]

So, it’s time to see the signs a coworker is sexually attracted to you. From there, you’ll be able to decide whether or not you’ll want to make a move. Anyways, let’s get this thing going! Because it looks like someone has a crush!

1. You feel it

Yes, this is the most important sign. Maybe because you like them, your instinct isn’t in tune, but usually, you can tell when someone is sexually attracted to you.

It’s the overall energy, the way they look at you. You can feel it throughout your body. If you have that feeling, you’re completely right. *but still, read the other signs!* [Read: Mutual sexual tension – 44 signs, causes and how to make each other more horny]

2. You feel comfortable being touchy with them

When we like someone, we’re touching them, laughing, making small flirtatious moves. And if the response is reciprocating, then great, it’s a good sign you have good sexual chemistry.

But, if you double think every time you touch their arm or sit close to them, then something is off. If it’s not happening naturally, you don’t have the right sexual attraction. [Read: What does sexual attraction feel like?]

3. It’s all in the body

Your colleagues are no different from the billions of other people on this earth. Everything you need to know is in their body language.

If they sit super close to you, staring at you from their desk or always facing you, it’s clear they’re attracted to you.

4. Everything they do at work is to get your attention

If they need printer paper or are talking to a colleague, they always make sure you’re aware of what’s going on. Why? Because they want your attention.

When a coworker is sexually attracted to you, they want you to give them the printer paper, they want you to know what they’re talking about with other people. This is all a way to bring you closer to them.

5. Your conversations flow

Sexual attraction is more than just eye contact. It also involves the way you communicate. If you’re at work and you find yourself talking about non-work-related things for hours on end, you are attracted to each other to some level.

Sexual and non-sexual chemistry go together like two peas in a pod. [Read: How to handle a coworker crush like an adult]

6. The eye contact isn’t weird

When you look at each other, it doesn’t make you feel uncomfortable. Instead, you want to jump on them and rip their clothes off. But slow it down!

When you hold eye contact, it’s a clear sign of sexual chemistry. But if you’re feeling creeper vibes, well, then clearly that’s a red flag.

7. They value your opinion

If you’re really good at your job, they’ll value your opinion regardless. But, if they’re into you, you’ll notice them taking more interest in what you have to say and supporting your ideas. These are subtle hints, but they can tell you a lot about someone’s intentions.

8. You hang outside of work

It’s normal to become friends with your colleagues and want to spend time with them outside of the office. But, if you’re looking for signs your coworker is sexually attracted to you *and you them*, you’ll make time to do “coupley” activities together.

You’ll go to the movies, grab dinner and drinks. Does this sound like you two are “just friends?” [Read: 15 signs of sexual tension at work and ways to break the tension]

9. They don’t mention their dating life

Why would they? They don’t want you to know if they’re seeing someone. That would go against everything they planned.

If you don’t know their dating status, it’s probably because they don’t want you to know.

10. They tease you

Sure, it sounds a little juvenile, but there’s some truth to it. Teasing is a form of flirting, and if someone is lightly teasing you, they’re gauging your reaction.

They want to see if you’re interested in something more with them. By flirting, your coworker is trying to create sexual chemistry with you, and they want to know if you’ll take the bait. [Read: 15 signs your coworker is looking for a workplace romance with you]

11. You are on social media

It’s not good to have your colleagues or bosses on your social media account. Unless you’re close friends, of course.

But if they’re the ones to initiate adding you on Instagram or Facebook, there’s a reason why. They want to overpass the office relationship and become more intimate. 

12. They give you gifts

And no, we’re not talking about a microwave or something wrapped in a red bow. These gifts are more “office appropriate.”

For example, they bring you coffee in the morning or get you a new stapler. It makes it look like no big deal, but these subtle gestures mean a lot. [Read: The signs someone is flirting with you at work]

13. They’re always there

Whether you’re in the kitchen or at your desk, they always just seem to be there. They’re trying to find an opportunity to talk with you, that’s why they’re always around.

The next time you leave a meeting, see where they go. Your coworker will probably follow you, in a non-creepy way.

14. They ask about your dating life

It may seem like they’re just making general conversation, but if it turns to dating, then that is a good sign.

If you’re not dating anyone, they might remark how it’s crazy that someone hasn’t snatched you up yet. They may even ask what your perfect man or woman is in the hopes that you will get the hint and describe them. [Read: 23 signs to know if someone is thinking of you sexually and desires you]

15. They find excuses to text or email you

When you work with someone, usually your texts or emails are strictly on an as-needed basis. Most people aren’t too excited to talk to their co-workers more than they have to.

But if it feels like this person is finding excuses to get in touch with you – especially if it’s outside of work hours – then they have an interest in you outside of business. [Read: 17 signs your boss wants to sleep with you and is slowly seducing you]

16. They talk to you a lot at work

If a coworker likes you or is sexually attracted to you, one of the signs is just how often they reach out. Not only do they find excuses to text or email you, but they also visit you in your office or cubicle as much as possible.

It could be just to plop down in a chair and ask how your day is going. But you notice that they spend a lot more time talking to you than anyone else you work with.

17. They compliment you

This is a tricky one – but a tell-tale sign. Lots of times people will refrain from compliments at work because they don’t want it to be misconstrued as sexual harassment.

So, if you find that this person is always saying how cute your outfit is or that they like how your hair looks, it’s because they are noticing everything about you.

18. They suggest “hanging out sometime”

Maybe the two of you haven’t gotten to know each other well enough to see each other outside of work. So, if they suggest that you have lunch one day or say something like, “We should grab a drink one day at the new bar down the road,” then they are wanting to get you alone outside of work. [Read: How to know if someone likes you back – 15 subtle signs people miss]

19. They dress up and smell good

If you suddenly notice that they are dressing up better than normal or putting on perfume or cologne, then they are doing that on purpose. They want you to notice them and see how good they look and melt when you get a whiff of them up close.

20. They seek you out in groups or meetings

Whenever you go to a meeting or a group lunch outing with other coworkers, then they will always find the seat right next to yours. They want to talk to you one-on-one and they would rather have the two of you disappear alone.

Pros and cons of dating a coworker

Now that you know the signs that a coworker is sexually attracted to you, there are some things to think about. If you are also sexually attracted to this person you work with, then you might think of only the pros of dating them.

If there is a mutual interest, then why not? Well, while dating a coworker might seem like a good idea, it can create problems too. So let’s talk about both the pros and the cons so you can decide if you should build the sexual tension up or drop it completely. [Read: Dating a coworker – 10 do’s and don’ts you can’t ignore]

Pros

1. You get to spend time together

When you date someone you don’t work with, then you can only see them outside of business hours. But when you work with them, then you have endless opportunities to be together. 

2. You have your “ride or die” at work

If you work with your significant other, then you know that person will always have your back. Because of this, you have someone you can always trust. You can privately joke and talk about other people you work with too.

3. You can complain to each other

When your partner doesn’t work with you, then you have to wait until work is over to get any consolation for a bad day. But if they’re in the same work environment, they can definitely understand and empathize with you a lot more. [Read: 15 subtle ways to flirt with a coworker at work and see if they like you]

Cons

1. You could bring personal issues into the workplace

When you have relationship problems, then you might bring them into your job. This could affect your job performance too. For this reason, a lot of employers don’t want their employees to date each other.

2. Seeing each other 24/7 might be too much

While you can see each other more than if you didn’t work together *which is a pro,* this can also be a bad thing. Sometimes it’s good to have space from your significant other. Believe it or not, you can get too much of a good thing.

3. What if you break up?

Sure, it might be just fine to work together as long as you are still in a relationship. But what happens when things fizzle? It would be very uncomfortable to have to see each other all the time at work. [Read: 16 signs of flirting at work to tell if a coworker is hitting on you]

4. You might compete with each other

If the two of you are on the same level at work and do the same job, what happens if an opportunity for a promotion opens up? Will you have to compete with each other for it? And what will you do if one of you is resentful that the other is moving up the corporate ladder faster than they are?

5. Your co-workers might not like it

You might think that no one would care, but some people might. These inter-office relationships can often mean everyone you work with has access to the details of your love life. What if people end up talking about you? And what I this talk is not kind? 

[Read: 23 intense signs of unspoken mutual attraction between two people]

After looking at these signs a coworker is sexually attracted to you, what do you think? Is this a one-sided crush? Or does it look like someone may have a crush on you as well? And what will you do if you end up dating?